I don’t know how it happened, but for some reason most of our friends got up and moved out of town the second they graduated. And not just out of town, but out of state! California, Colorado, Massachusetts, Georgia, New Jersey, Texas, Vermont, Indiana; all over, like we were scattered into the national wind.
I was one of the few hold outs. I stuck around close to home for years, living in Oakville, Watertown, Woodbury, New Milford, and Danbury. I got married and, thankfully, divorced. None of it really stuck. Until i decided to move 1000 miles away to the Deep South. I completed the act it seems all of our friends were destined to do, I moved far out of earshot of town.
I think that my experience in relocating is similar to many of my friends: we went in search of opportunity, found it, settled, and look back only in a fond (and not longing or regretful) way. None of us wishes to really go back. None of us are even anxious for our next class reunion.
We travel back to town to see our families, if they are still there. While we’re in town we drive by some of our old haunts and see how much has changed since we lived there. I sometimes wonder what impact we would have had on the town if we all decided to stay. We are all influential people in our own way, I wonder how our presence would have affected our little town had we remained to dig our roots in.
We didn’t. We all chose to establish our families in places that were very different from the town where we were brought up. I wonder why that is. I wonder why it seems that so many of us moved.
As a result of our collective relocation, it seems that news travels slower to each of us (me, especially). I think that we end up relying on our friends to keep up with each other and our families more than we realized we ever would. Add in a drop of social media (blogs, twitter, and well, plain old emails) and we got ourselves a hub of communication.
Have you heard any news from Southbury lately? Are they knocking down a building that we would all remember? Did they drop a housing development onto a plot of greenspace that we would all miss? What’s the story? Share it with us here.
And by the way, the consult that Mr. A had with his surgeon went well and they are optimistically scheduling the surgery to carefully remove what’s left of his melanoma and surrounding tissue. Thank you for your well-wishes and prayers. They have a profound affect on his health and attitude throughout this ordeal.